So most stayed in the closet, continuing to project heterosexuality, while discreetly meeting other gay men in underground gay scenes or over the internet. These were their friends, their chosen families — their pillars of emotional support. Community Community standards Republishing guidelines Friends of The Conversation Research and Expert Database Analytics Events Our feeds Donate Company Who we are Our charter Our team Our blog Partners and funders Resource for media Contact us Stay informed and subscribe to our free daily newsletter and get the latest analysis and commentary directly in your inbox. Christiana Herringham in Surrey — Egham, Surrey. Pressure to act the part The gay men in straight gangs I spoke with knew precisely what was expected of them: Despite the dangers, some wanted to come out.
Many responded with their fists.
You couldn't make it up. And halfway through we learn that the big old bruiser is Ron had hardly kept it a secret. It was also more acceptable for them to project femininity, whether it was making flamboyant gestures, using effeminate mannerisms, or wearing certain styles of clothing, like skinny jeans. Being effeminate was a nonstarter; they were all careful to present a uniformly masculine persona, lest they lose status and respect. The bitter future for coffee:
Some of the gang members were in gangs made up of primarily gay, lesbian or bisexual people. The experience, which took place over the course of more than two years, allowed me to explore the tensions they felt between gang life and gay manhood. So most stayed in the closet, continuing to project heterosexuality, while discreetly meeting other gay men in underground gay scenes or over the internet. It helped that the initial group of men whom I spoke to knew me from years earlier, when we became friends at a drop-in center for LGBTQ youth. The gay men in straight gangs I spoke with knew precisely what was expected of them: Ronnie Kray gave his boyfriend a little kiss on the cheek.